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My name is Ann. Today I want to talk with you about how to deal with 2 small children who have a very small age difference.

Anya Eliseeva mother of two charming girls Katrusi and Marusi. Anya tells how to cope with two little children who have a small age difference, combine work and life. We share with you the most useful life hacks:

I want to tell about my story.

Challenge: work and 2 small children

Between my girls the difference is a year and 10 months. When Marusa was a year old, and I just stopped breastfeeding, I returned to work, my husband and I began repairs in our apartment, and then an ultrasound revealed that we would have another baby.

I just went to work, and even there was no question at all that I could again go on maternity leave again for a long time. Therefore, I had already thought through this logistics in advance, how I could combine work and two small children.

The main fears in expectation of the second child

I immediately had a few basic fears:

1. The first fear, and the main one, is that I won’t be able to devote as much time to my beloved baby, my Marusa, and that I will not be missed as much as Marusya did for my newborn baby.
2. My second fear was that Maroussia will be very jealous, and her world will collapse because she was such a mommy, a very tame girl. And I was very worried that there would be some kind of aggression, stress, that when they grow up, there will be some fights. I read a lot about this (We also read: sibling rivalry).
3. My next fear was that how I could raise two little children without interrupting production.

All fears have come true!

Another problem that I encountered, and about which I did not think very much during pregnancy, was the illness of children. When Marusia fell ill for the first time, Katya was only 6 months old.

Naturally, the youngest child picked up the virus from the older one, and in general we were very ill all over for Christmas. It was very a pity for both girls because both needed a mother, both had to be hugged, stroked, be near, and treated. And here at least burst!

How do I deal with children's jealousy for each other

1. Prepare dad

The first is to train dad. Our dad is golden, thank God, in principle, he is in some ways a mom. Sometimes even more mom than me! We agreed during his pregnancy that he would spend more time with Marusya.

He began to put her to bed, he bathed her, read her fairy tales, walked with her a lot.Therefore, in principle, Marusa’s father could always replace his mother, or at least in not the most acute and critical situations you can always go to your father’s hands and stay with him.

We also read: TOP 25 rules for dad who brings up a daughter

2. Having fun together

Of course, it is very important to create some kind of such moments, especially when the little baby is growing up so that they can play and enjoy together with the common time. It is very difficult to do, because little children cannot play. They do not know how to explain, do not know how to communicate, they feel good, just when they have a mother or some favorite toys.

3. Bathing together

But, nevertheless, it is good to take a bath together. After 2 years, Marusa was curious that there is some little baby who swims next to her in the bathroom, lies on the back, buzzes. It was a great time together.

4. Listen to music together

You can listen to music together, and not necessarily for children, it is not necessary to go crazy with the next track of Mozart or Tchaikovsky. You can listen to the music that you listen with your father. Andrei and I included our favorite videos, we wholeheartedly relaxed, had fun, and the kids danced, had fun with us. It is very close!

5. Travel together

Great travel always shows whether you can exist together or not. Therefore, our children, traveling together to their grandmothers in Odessa, somewhere just outside the city, also approached, because the road draws together.

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How do I deal with everyday life and work

1. Assistants

The most important thing, No. 1, is the assistants. All you can afford is a nanny, 2 nannies, a grandmother, a grandfather, a girlfriend. I asked even for the weekend to come girlfriend, just to exhale and look up at the white ceiling.

2. Online shopping

I transferred all my purchases online. This is very beneficial to do:

• It saves time;
• It saves your resources - you do not run, do not choose. You are precisely focused on what you need to buy;
• And, of course, this saves the budget, because buying on most sites is more profitable and cheaper.

When you buy clothes on the site, you see the entire collection at once. You can plan what to buy, and not just in the store you liked the thing, and you were distracted by it and forgot that you do not need it.

And so you clearly know - yeah, I bought red tights, a red dress, red shoes. And, of course, buy clothes for yourself too. I ordered everything, they brought me to try on, I tried on right at home. In general, this is the weekend: you feed the baby, the courier arrives, you measure - approached, not approached, send the order, and save a lot of time.

We also read: The best children's online stores

3. Distribute work

Feel free to say at work again that you have small children, that you need to express your breasts, that you cannot sit and tryndet at meetings for anything very much in debt.
I came in such a status as a “young mother”, constantly talking to everyone about it, because, unfortunately, we don’t have a law or a culture in society that would protect, protect and help my mother, who is forced to work and organize breastfeeding .

And I adjusted all my meetings, my entire schedule precisely for these expressions. I never answered the phone. I just saved them and answered autoreplay, which I will answer later, now I can not. It freed me time to do something with my hands.

Then I had a pool of time when I answer phone calls, and I also rescheduled all work meetings either for a clear time on certain days or on certain days.

4. All tasks dictate and send audio files

When there are a lot of tasks in your head, you need to write them down, but even write down - not always a notebook and pen at hand, but always a phone at hand. Therefore, you can dictate to yourself everything that you should do, send the audio file, for example, to dad or someone else. You do not waste time, all the information you have saved.In the evening or in the morning, you can scroll through it and remember what important tasks you have recorded.

5. The whole schedule to rebuild from mom

Everything that happens around mom should happen around mom. Therefore, you should not be torn to work, to an older child, to a younger child, but everything should be organized around you. Even a child can be brought for feeding to mom to work.

We also read: Who will help a working mom?

Allow yourself to be imperfect

Again, a very important psychological, moral, spiritual life hack is that at some point you just need to relax and understand that you cannot be perfect!

There will no longer be a choice between good and bad. You will no longer be such a perfectionist as you were with your first child. Now there are two of them, some other duties - and simply the world will not be the same. And all the time it will be necessary to choose between worse and worse. You still make this choice, but when you internally accept it for yourself, it becomes somehow easier to breathe.

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Because it will be like this: or the children will sleep - it’s better for the children, we won’t sleep - it’s worse for us. Children will take a walk, get some pleasure, we will do everything for them, but we will not have time to do any housework.

You have this choice - it is constant. Therefore, here you need to accept this situation, that you are not an ideal mother, but you are what you are. I myself, like mantras, read the same thing all the time:

“Well, like that, and you can survive it! They will grow up, and will still love each other, and will still live happily, peacefully, because we love them very much. ”

And indeed, over time, everything comes to a rhythm, the children grow up - but pasaran, mothers! 🙂

We also read:The difference between the children is 3 years: the pros and cons of raising children with a difference of three years

Hang on, believe in yourself and share your life hacks in the comments:

• How do you deal with 2 babies?
• What techniques do you have?
• How do you reassure them when they quarrel?
• How do you distribute your time between all responsibilities?

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