I have long hatched the outline of this article in my head, but I did not find the time. After giving birth, I often began to think about how the life of women changes after childbirth. I decided to make a list of the changes that happened to me after the baby was born.
1. I realized that work is just rubbish compared to caring for a child. All working problems, difficulties with clients, and even reprimands from superiors did not stand close to those problems that appear after the birth of a child. As it turned out, an infant can blow a mom’s brain a hundred times harder. Naturally, the child does this out of luck and on purpose, but the mother’s nerves are also not iron. Sometimes you want to literally climb onto the wall or just cry with him in unison. Caring for a child exhausts not only physically, but also mentally. Moms are practically locked in the walls of the apartment, every day they live according to the same regime, and this is very tiring. Daily routines quickly get bored, and mothers look with envy at dads, whose life, it seems, has not changed at all. Dads continue to work, they can go somewhere at any time and are completely independent of their child’s regimen. And to go somewhere to mom is a whole problem: you need to agree with your husband and adjust your affairs to his schedule. But at the time of her husband’s arrival, one also needs to cook dinner, not to mention that it would be nice to have time to put oneself in order. The children are all different, my baby did not let me go from her literally a single step. She slept very poorly in a stroller on the street, and at home I had to spend days in her arms and entertain her — otherwise my daughter would constantly whimper or yell like a fire siren. What rest is there, all day I spun like a hooter. I really felt the whole point of the joke that only a young mother can understand how great it is to drink a cup of tea alone at late night. Here really - incomparable sensations! A decree is the same job, you only carry the boss in your arms. Hard physical and moral labor.
2. After the birth of my daughter, I began to really love my work more and realized all its value. Now I work part-time, but I feel how my brain is resting at this time. I ceased to be annoyed when answering questions from eternally dissatisfied customers, honestly, I even began to treat them with sympathy.
3. I began to better understand our mothers and grandmothers who raised children without diapers and washing machines. They washed by hand, they did not have the modern equipment that we use daily for housework and caring for the baby: a dishwasher, vacuum cleaner, sterilizers for nipples and bottles, baby monitors. Raising a child in those days is a real feat, just a titanic work. And it’s just a sin to complain.
4. Mothers with many children became just heroes for me.I'm not talking about those sorrowful mothers who abuse alcohol, drugs and lead a wild life that gave birth to children only because they could not curb their animal instincts. I am talking about those mothers who consciously planned the birth of children who are confident that they can provide them with a decent upbringing and education, surround them with warmth, care and love. I admire such mothers and hope that someday I will be able to join their ranks.
5. After giving birth, I almost stopped sleeping normally. I don’t even remember the last time I slept quietly all night. My daughter is already almost a year and a half, and we are still at the GV. Sometimes it seems to me that I will feed her forever. I would be glad to stop breastfeeding, but my baby is not ready for this yet. And I'm not sure that someday she will be completely ready for this. But hope in the future when the time comes wean daughter, we can still agree with her.
6. But, despite the lack of normal sleep, I became more energetic, I began to do more. Before the birth of a child, my life passed according to the work-home-work scheme. Sometimes, however, I still visited the gym or met with friends. But I came home squeezed like a lemon. Perhaps the whole thing was on the road: while you get home from work - you get so tired that you want only one thing - to lay down on the couch and do nothing. Of course, I still sometimes have such a desire, but still I feel much more awake, and I manage to do a lot of things in a day.
7. I began to devote more time to my appearance. Of course, I had looked after myself before, in my makeup bag there were always lip glosses, tonal shades, shadows and mascaras. But sometimes their shelf life expired earlier than I had time to use them. Now I try to regularly visit the hairdresser and beauty salon, constantly doing manicures and pedicures. I want to be beautiful, to admire my husband and daughter, I want my husband and daughter to be proud of me, so that they always see me beautiful. I would very much like that, looking at me, my baby learns to follow, care and take care of herself. In the future, of course, now she’s too small for all this, but she’s already succeeding in disassembling my makeup bag, and she also loves lipstick 🙂
8. I stopped watching TV. And it’s not even that I don’t have time for this. I just don't feel like it. On TV, they always show one negative, negative news always attracts people more, so they’re played all day. If I need to find out what is happening in the world, I just go online and read the news there.
9. After the birth of my daughter, I recovered 10 kg and began to weigh 74 kilograms. At first I was very upset, but now I understand that if you try, then you can get rid of excess weight. I began to adhere to proper nutrition and play sports - not as active as I would like, but still to come. I hope that by the summer season I will again become slim.
10. I really changed internally, as if I stepped up to a step inaccessible to me before. I feel that I now know a little more about our world than girls who have never given birth. I was always interested in childbirth, and I wanted to feel all this on myself. I wanted my birth to take place without anesthesia, but, unfortunately, it could not do without it. However, this is not so important, the main thing is that my baby was born healthy.
11. I began to better understand my mother. I began to understand how my mother felt when I was a teenager. How difficult it was for her to let me go for evening and night walks, to discos. Moreover, in those days, cell phones had just begun to appear, and not every family had the opportunity to purchase them. I am extremely grateful to my mother for the fact that in spite of everything, she did not limit my freedom.
12. I became a real guru in children's products. Clothing, shoes, rattles, educational toys and books, complementary foods - all that I had no idea about before. And I began to understand children's diseases and vaccinations.I do not always blindly follow the recommendations of doctors, try not to stuff the baby with tons of pills, and I decide whether to give this or that vaccine. But, each mother, of course, has her own opinion on this. Better not even start discussing this topic.
13. I realized that no woman can be absolutely ready for motherhood if this is her first pregnancy. It only at first seems to us that everything is simple. We buy a stroller, a crib and a baby bath, wash and iron a whole mountain of diapers, undershirts, and stock up on baby care products. We think that everything will be fine: the baby will sleep sweetly in his crib, and the happy mother will watch her baby with a smile. Yeah, right now. That's why I don’t like advertising, it’s for a false representation of reality. Why do not they show yelling babies, mothers with an unfastened dressing gown, because the child constantly hangs on his chest, scattered toys and not only toys throughout the apartment, and other amenities of life during this period ..? Because the advertiser will not sell his products to anyone, if instead of a picture of a mother with hair folded, manicure, jewelry and dressed as an outbreak, holding in her arms a peacefully sleeping pretty child, there will be a real mother with a baby. She asked herself - she answered. This happens to me.
14. With the advent of the child, sex has become less. Significantly less. Of course, I want sex, but every time at the most crucial moment a child wakes up. And so, while you feed him, until you put him to bed again - the whole mood instantly disappears. I try to think positively, I console myself with the fact that soon my daughter will grow up and will sleep peacefully all night. That's when my husband and I will catch up with everything!
15. I feel more confident. I am very glad that I did not lose hope and did not fall into despair, planning our child. I am glad that my body was quite strong, and I was able to endure and give birth to my baby without problems.
16. After the birth of the child, I made new friends - also young mothers. I also registered on various forums and blogs for mothers and found there many like-minded people who also became my friends, albeit virtual.
17. I began to fall in love with my husband again. After the birth of my daughter, I recognized him from a completely different perspective. I could not even imagine that he was able to give our crumbs so much love and care. And although this happens infrequently, he still spends most of his time at work, but at such rare moments I begin to love and appreciate him even more.
18. The most important thing that I understood after childbirth is that my child became the center of my new universe, my joy, my happiness and the brightest sun that shines on me every day. My child is my happiness, her smile and laughter make me happy every day, and I react to her whims much more calmly. Where without vagaries.
Here is such a list I got! Thank you for reading. I wish everyone a happy motherhood and more happy moments in family life.
Share what changes have occurred in your life after the birth of a baby?
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I read with interest, although I am not a mom, but just a dad. That is, the person whose, according to the author, life with the birth of a child does not change.
Together with his wife, they raised two sons, one of whom is a disabled child. Now one is 29, and the second is 22 years old. So there’s some experience in education.
Based on this experience, I would like to say that all of these problems are just a fraction of the iceberg that you still have to face while your child, along the way of his formation, will live with you under one roof. And a real understanding of all the problems will not come soon.
In the meantime, you don’t have an understanding, but tiredness from problems that have arisen and a normal desire to quickly return to the “normal” way of life that was before the birth of the baby.
And to make it easier to survive many of the problems that have arisen, re-educate your husband)). Accustom him to live fully the problems of the family, not just work. Make him a reliable assistant who can replace or replace you at any time.
And you will immediately have time for a little sleep, sex with your beloved husband, for some of your little distractions from the routine.
And most importantly, you will have a good mood and well-being, which means that the family will have a peaceful sky.
Good luck to your young mother !!!))
To be honest, she never thought that taking care of a child takes so much time! I remember how my father-in-law constantly poked my husband: “What is your wife doing? She doesn’t go to work, she is on maternity leave! ” Of course, it all depends on the attitude towards the child and the family. There are such “mothers” who manage to work and look after the child and relax ... I am absolutely sure: to be a good mother for your baby, you need to give all of yourself to him.
My (my husband and I) life has changed beyond recognition! The child has a regime and we have a regime. You can only plan something until a quiet hour or after it. Like Cinderella, I look at my watch all the time. At 12 (days, of course) you need to turn everything off, pack up and rush home, because at one o'clock the child should sleep. He sleeps only in his bed, has never once fallen asleep in a car, is not cut down, and that’s it. After half a year I stopped sleeping in the stroller. If we leave the regime, it will become Satan. It’s not very convenient ...