Constant communication and interaction with adults and peers is an important condition for the development of a psychologically healthy child. Of course, you need to have a special talent in order to find a common language with any person. However, practically everyone can learn to hold a conversation, with dignity to get out of conflict situations, and acquire acquaintances. Like other skills, it is advisable to develop communication skills from childhood. And in this matter, the first helpers are you, dear parents!
But first, valuable advice: in the struggle for sociability, it is important to know the measure. You cannot put children in an awkward position, force them to carry out your assignment, or forcibly introduce children to them. Show patience and sensitivity - only then the child will take the initiative. Be sure to repeat with him the rules of behavior with strangers on the street.
Rules for effective child communication
- Expand your baby’s social circle in the second year of life. Earlier, it was enough for him to interact with relatives at home. And for two-year-old children, such limited space is extremely insufficient for expanding their horizons and the need for socialization.
- When you meet, learn to call yourself and ask the name of the interlocutor. After several repetitions, this will become a habit with your offspring. Encourage every attempt to get close to peers in the playground.
- During a walk, invite him to ask how the boy or girl’s acquaintance is doing. This can be done not only directly, but also through the parents of a friend. A few phrases - and the little friends the next day will not just say hello and say "goodbye", but make the first attempts to establish a dialogue.
- Find out what the preschool children would like to buy in the store, and ask the saleswoman to voice her own choice. If he still cannot overcome shyness and uncertainty, do not blame him for cowardice. Left alone, specify: “Did you want a chocolate bar? With nuts? And what purchase will we make tomorrow? Will you help me choose? What will we ask the aunt at the counter for? ” Act in the same way in other public places: in a cafe, zoo, museum and theater.
- In the children's team, acute moments and violent showdowns occur literally at every step. You should not immediately rush to breed arguers in different corners of the sandbox, give them time to overcome the misunderstanding themselves. Of course, if the situation is not heated to the limit. Also teach your child not to aggravate the conflict over trifles, and at the same time, to stay with dignity.
- Three-year-old peanut is still possible (and necessary) to make comments in the yard, but only one-on-one conversation should be held with the student.The same applies to new friends: a preschooler can be recommended to get to know someone, and older children should choose their own company.
- Do not forget to talk about etiquette and its proper application. Children should have a clear understanding of how to communicate with an adult or peer. For example, it is enough for a friend to say “Hello” and “Bye”, but for the educator or doctor, more respectful phrases are suitable - “Hello”, “All the best”.
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Let's Play!
Communicative skills are formed, including in gaming activities. Not every entertainment contributes to sociability, so we list the most necessary.
- Role-playing games
They are ideal for developing communication skills. Children, putting on various “masks”, learn to look at a certain thing from many angles, evaluate their behavior and the actions of others, in the end, try to talk to each other. The most popular version is “Mother and Daughters”, as well as a host of other options: visiting a supermarket, visiting a doctor, going to the zoo.
- Dramatization
To arrange theatrical performances at home is a wonderful and very useful idea. Such activities liberate, give room for imagination and creativity. Even if at first your child participates in the skits as a silent spectator, his vocabulary is still enriched, and his memory becomes stronger. Gradually engage him in the action: ask questions about the fairy tale, pretend that you do not remember the continuation.
- Games with rules
Such exercises, as well as all kinds of competitions instill perseverance, attentiveness, the desire to win and learn to interact with other people. Little kids are already getting acquainted with the conditions that need to be fulfilled: the sequence of the move, the result. Often the kids are upset about the loss and even try to change the principles of the game. At an early age, you can succumb, thereby increasing the confidence of your offspring in yourself, but otherwise do not give in - the rules must be respected!
- Facial expressions and gestures
Before you start the fun, tell us that you can communicate not only with words, but also with movements (wave your hand) and facial expressions (smile). Imagine a clubfoot bear, and the fidget will guess, then switch places. Older children love to play in the "Association" when the driver through gestures and grimaces plays out any situation or determination.
Meticulous readers will be interested, but is it really necessary to develop these very communicative abilities? Suppose a child has a certain type of personality that does not imply a desire to interact with a large number of people.
We agree that “breaking” your child is not worth it, but helping to build relationships with the outside world is simply necessary. There are so many interesting, useful, unusual things around that it’s very difficult to live without interpersonal skills. Therefore, the task of the parents is to teach the little man to draw this information in a variety of ways, which means that children need to be taught communication!
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