Many mothers argue that with the second and subsequent children, the baby period is easier than with the firstborn. The point is not that the first babies are especially capricious and choosy, but that the woman gains self-confidence and is no longer afraid that she will not cope with the baby. The experience gained with the first child allows you not to make mistakes that are often made by mothers raising their first baby.
So, 15 common mistakes that experienced mothers do not repeat with their second child ...
1. Do not put the baby in a separate bed
Inexperienced mothers often complain of lack of sleep, this problem can be effectively resolved if the baby is laid with her parents. A joint sleep provides the convenience of feeding the baby: the mother does not need to get out of bed to give a breast or a bottle, she feeds the baby without getting up. And then she does not have to rock the baby for a long time, next to her mother, a well-fed baby feels comfortable and warm and quickly falls asleep.
2. Do not buy extra baby clothes
Buying a dowry for a newborn is a fascinating activity. Small, like doll-like clothes, cause tenderness and tenderness. Inexperienced mothers are buying everything. And those who already have one child know that the kids grow very quickly, and many clothes will remain unpacked.
3. They do not wait for the child to learn how to handle a toothbrush himself, but begin to brush their teeth immediately after teething
Early caries is a common occurrence. And to reduce the risk of developing the disease, the teeth are cleaned immediately, as soon as they erupt. First, mom uses a sterile bandage, and then you can use a soft brush.
4. Will feed on demand
With your first child, you got up every two hours, despite the fact that the child does not need to eat so often. You feed the second baby on demand only when the baby is really hungry. Experienced women know that each child "sets" the hours of feeding and gives a breast or a bottle on demand. Toddlers who get food when they need it are calmer, sleep better at night and are less naughty during the day.
5. Actively communicate with the baby from birth
Children begin to recognize the voices of mom and dad in the third trimester. Communicate with your baby from birth, keep in touch with him, this is important. Mom’s voice has a calming effect on the baby, the more you talk with the baby, the faster the child speaks himself.
6. They try to wean the baby out of the bottle faster
The American Dental Association has conducted studies that have confirmed that early use of a drinker reduces the risk of tooth decay. Experienced mothers begin to teach the baby to drink not from a bottle, but from a convenient mug from about six months old. By the time the baby turns one year old, you should completely abandon the bottle.
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7. Do not waste time on endless photo reports and diary entries
Newly made mothers try to write in a diary all the events in the life of the baby and take pictures of him daily. When the second baby is born, the woman clearly understands that the time spent on keeping diaries and processing photos is better spent on communicating with the child.
8. Do not delay the "relocation" of the child in their own crib
Sleeping together provides many benefits. But it is important to “relocate” the baby to its own berth in time. It is much easier to remove a one-year-old baby from mom and dad than to negotiate with a three-year-old. Experienced mothers do not repeat such mistakes twice.
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9. Do not delay potty training
Diapers are a convenient invention. And often inexperienced parents drag out the training of the baby to the pot for almost three years. Moms who raise a second child cope with this task much faster. In addition, their first-born children help them. The baby will imitate the oldest child in everything, including this one.
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From the forum: mistakes that I would not repeat with my second child
10. Do not trust children's doctors!
Everything must be checked for them! One pediatrician in the clinic mocked us that we have high lymphocytes, it turned out to be the norm for infants.
11. Give medications for a common cold
It flows from the previous one. The elder was given everything that the doctor said. From a cold, cough, etc. Grandparents insisted on an antipyretic as soon as the temperature rose. But when my daughter began to get sick every 2 weeks, I stopped. And she noticed that a commonplace cold without drugs is faster. Yes, and the child became sick less often. We wash the younger nose with sea water, and give paracetamol only if the fever really bothers her.
12. I don’t know how real it is - do not rock the rock)
I hear and read this advice everywhere, while I really do not understand much how realistic this is, but from the first days you can try to teach yourself to fall asleep yourself, only stroking, nipple, lullaby.
13. Accustom to the noise!
Accustom to the noise! From the first days! we didn’t do it and now after the child falls asleep, we speak in a whisper, we want to tiptoe and live only in the kitchen) we do not turn on the TV, but are satisfied with the mini-iPad)) while my friend watches with her husband with the sound a telly near a child sleeping in a crib, and even a huge dog is rushing around the apartment, barking and whining, and at least henna for the child)
14. Swaddle at night
After discharge from the hospital, we never swaddled the baby, which I regret now and understand that she would have slept with us a thousand times calmer and longer. Swaddle steel at 5! months, when she was tormented when folding to sleep, keep her arms and legs, since she either waves and wakes herself up, and rubs her eyes, and now with a diaper, bedding and sleep have become much better. But I am for modern diapers such as swaddle me, red castle.
15. Excessive struggle for cleanliness
With my second child in my case, it became simply impossible to maintain hygiene at the level. The elder sticks her fingers in her mouth, throws the toys on the floor constantly. She crawls into her crib and even into the stroller .. At first I was angry, but then I noticed that there were no ill effects on the health of the youngest.
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Ksyusha Tikhonova: 10 mistakes of young mothers
In the video “mistakes of young mothers” I will share with the mistakes that young mothers often make on the very initial path of their motherhood.I experienced a part of these errors on myself, I observed another part in my surroundings, but one way or another, under all these errors one common feature can be drawn - they are all connected with life after the birth of a child.
With my second child, I decided to wean from the chest exactly one year, because the elder’s training at 2, 5, when he demanded “piss,” was given to me and my husband not easily
I agree with most points. If I took the time back, I would immediately put the baby in the crib, and not lay it down. Soon a year, but I still could not teach to bed. Keeping diaries and taking photos is mandatory with the second child! This is the same memory that will remain with the parents, and the children will grow up and corrode. And about brushing your teeth and toilet: I brush my child’s teeth with the appearance of the first tooth, we are trying to learn to pot now.
12. Not rocking and 13. Noise
The author does not realize that this is not a rule, but a choice based on the characteristics of a particular child!
We have the opposite. They did not rock the first one, because he did not need it, and they made noise, because lived in odnushka, otherwise nothing. And the noise did not wake him.
But the second tried to grow the same way, and got a cookie.
She doesn’t sleep without motion sickness (until we are 3 months old, so we don’t wean). And from a sudden noise it can wake up (for example, a cat’s song or a phone call), but it doesn’t wake up from a street monotonous noise.
So these are not mistakes in the behavior of parents.
I agree about the rest. And we did not make such mistakes even with the first child. 😉