Children are very observant and, like little special agents, they notice many little things. Only there are some things that it is better to try to hide from the child.
Of course, it is important to set an example for your child and to be honest and frank with him, but still each rule has its own exceptions. So, in this article we have prepared for you a selection of 8 things that you should not tell your child about whenever possible.
1. You abuse junk food
Even if you are trying very hard to control the amount of sugar in your food, it is probably not always possible. After all, it can be so difficult to deny yourself a night snack, and a croissant with chocolate for breakfast is endlessly delicious. Remember that the child takes an example from you: the culture of food in the family becomes the norm for him, watching his parents, he understands what is possible and what is not. Therefore, if you yourself are not yet able to completely abandon sweets and fast food, at least try to hide it from the kids to the maximum.
2. As a child, you also could not stand vegetables
Most parents hide from their little ones that at their age they also hated vegetables. This is not surprising, because many children at some point become extremely picky in food: they refuse to eat greens, or, on the contrary, take onions from the soup. If you want to teach kids to eat healthy food, there is only one option left - to come up with a fairy tale that as a child, your favorite dishes were boiled zucchini and broccoli puree.
3. When the children fall asleep, your “party” begins
A couple of hours between the time when the children and you yourself go to bed, the amount of entertainment is comparable to a fun Friday night. Finally, you can take a relaxing bath with foam, watch a movie, drink wine, gnaw on chips, just chat with your spouse and, of course, have sex. If you at least hint to the child about your plans for the evening, you will have to say goodbye to them. Favorite child will try to do everything possible so as not to go to bed and spend time with mom and dad.
4. Parents also quarrel sometimes
Ideal relationships are only in the movies, and in life, partners sometimes quarrel. How the conflict ends depends on you, but remember that it is on your example that children learn to manage their emotions and resolve disputes. It depends on you whether the child will take the side of mom, who says that their dad is “goat“, Or will continue to respect both parents. No matter how upset or angry you are after a quarrel, never vent negative emotions on children and do not use them for your own comfort. Kids should not grow up with the belief that their mission is to reassure mom and dad or take sides during a conflict.
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5. Giving birth - it hurts
When a child first asks how he was born, you can answer evasively (how to tell the child where the children come from) Only at one fine moment will your six-year-old daughter nevertheless understand that someday a child will appear in her belly, too, and will bring millions of questions to you. You can honestly tell her about everything, just miss the moment that during childbirth you experienced the most severe pain in your life. Otherwise, the child will always have a negative idea of this natural and wonderful process.
6. Money problems in your family
Hard times may come in every family. No one is safe from job loss and stress, but no matter what happens, try to keep your children feeling normal. Yes, kids will have to give up excesses, but they will more easily survive it if their parents remain calm and maintain a sense of security.
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7. Adults are scared by nuclear weapons
The time we live in is really scary and dangerous. Although everyone has their own political views, and someone is not at all interested in politics, thoughts about nuclear weapons and terrorist attacks periodically visit everyone. You can share your experiences with friends or a spouse, go to a therapist, but just don’t talk about it with your child.
Older children already receive certain information at school and the Internet, but psychologically they are still not ready to realize such terrible things as terrorism. Even if we are talking about this, speak calmly and clearly, without showing your anxiety.
8. Secrets of other children that you learn from their parents
All that other parents tell you about their children are secrets that you should not share with your children. Even if you have a very trusting relationship. If the children are familiar and communicate with each other, an awkward situation may arise between them, and you should not help the child learn to gossip and tell other people's secrets.
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Don’t say that there should be a food culture in the family, if parents love fast food, then they will never force the child to eat porridge for breakfast and generally adhere to a healthy diet.I was convinced from personal experience, if you want to impose healthy habits on your child, parents must adhere to such habits themselves)))
It is true for children to copy adults, therefore it is important to be attentive to ourselves, to pay attention to what we put on the “live air”. A culture of food in the family is generally a separate and one of the most important topics.
I also have an addition to all of the above. It is not worthwhile to discuss with friends some acquaintances, friends or relatives. Once a child may not pay attention to it, but in another say out loud as his mother or father think with outsiders. And you can’t blame the child, he just said what he heard. How did he know that this was a secret. In general, we will be vigilant! 😉
What nonsense is it that you can’t say to your daughter that it hurts? To lie so that she will be disappointed in the future?
Of course, paints do not need to be painted at all. But there is nothing to lie.
Similarly with chips and more. You either refuse this yourself or stop demanding the impossible from the child. Everything is pretty simple.
To conceal from the child this means to cause excessive suspicion.