There is one fairy tale about the old grandfather, who was already so weak that he could not eat neatly at the common table. Due to trembling hands, he constantly dropped and broke dishes. He was given an iron bowl, but grandfather continued to shed everything. As a result, he was put in a corner where he began to eat alone. Once the old man’s son noticed that his child was making some paper crafts. He explained to dad: “I am making dishes for you. You will eat from it when you become old, like a grandfather. ” From that moment, grandfather was seated at the common table again.
This parable tells us that our children will treat us in the future as we ourselves now treat our parents. If we want to live calmly and safely in old age, it is important to show love and respect for elders. By the way we relate to the elderly, we build our own future.
Tips for helping children not quarrel with grandmothers
Conflicts of grandchildren with grandparents are not uncommon. Which side to take in such cases? The main thing is to show respect for everyone and make everyone understand that you respect their opinions. A person’s point of view is always justified and motivated by something.
When the grandmother tells her grandson to put on a warmer hat for a walk, it’s clear what guides her. She is worried about the health of the baby, afraid that he would catch a cold. However, the position of the child is also clear. He is hot and uncomfortable, because he runs. Both sides need to help understand each other's motivation and try to reach a compromise. The solution may be, for example, this: the child will go to the street in a hat, and when he runs, he will be able to take it off for a short while.
Growing up, children become more open to dialogue, it becomes easier for them to explain something. Some of the actions of the elderly are completely devoid of logic - this is age-related. For example, they sometimes repeat the same thing many times, worry about nothing, refuse to throw away unnecessary things.
Do not look for explanations for the "oddities" of grandparents. Better help the children take them for granted. This is a skill to learn. Tell the children that grandparents have their own habits with which they are comfortable, that they are already old, they cannot be redone. There are only 2 options left. You can get annoyed, but it’s more reasonable to just accept grandparents with all their features. After all, we do not scold nature for wind, rain, slush, but adjust to the weather. It is also necessary to perceive the "quirks" of the elderly.
Respect for elders should be the norm for the child. What we will now invest in children, we will receive when we grow old.
Nobleness is not ephemeral. It is on a par with kindness, honesty, decency, compassion. These qualities can be brought up in a child not only through books, but also by personal example. Treat the elderly with respect - and for the child this will become the norm.
Because of their age, it can be difficult for children to imagine that grandparents were once young and active, that they worked and traveled. See old photos with your whole family - as if you were rewinding time back, and the children would be able to see elderly relatives in a different light. This historical excursion will help the child to see the true face of grandparents behind the usual wrinkles. Then the attitude towards them will change. Children will become more warm and caring for older relatives. Then the simplest phrase “granny, let's go for a walk” will be pronounced with such tenderness that the grandmother will have tears in her eyes.
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I don’t even know what problems there can be between grandmothers and grandchildren, and even more so conflicts. I have two grandchildren, boys of 5 and 8 years old, the relationship is perfect, they always stay with me with joy. We have a great time.