Although children are the flowers of life, and their upbringing is an incredibly fascinating process, not everything goes smoothly. Then everything that is boiling, tries to break out. At such a moment, you need to remember that even a few spiteful words from a loved one can forever hurt a tender baby heart and cause many mental problems in the future. You should always remember words that can be dangerous for children's perception. Even if anger knocks at the temples.
1. Leave me alone! Most children, like tails follow mommy without giving her a moment of solitude, they ask everything, tell their observations, generously flattering it all with a continuous stream of “Mom, Mom, Mom.” Even if you want to sit in the toilet alone, and the children climb on the door, you just want to roar "Leave me alone!" In no case do not say these cruel words. Doing this is prohibited. That is simply prohibited. If a person is repelled by the closest and dearest, then what about others. The world around is huge and hostile, precisely in the fact that you are nearby the baby is looking for his safety and comfort. Mom is the most dear person, she should be associated with safety and comfort. It doesn’t matter how cold the world is, next to mom should be good and reliable.
2. Bring to a heart attack! It would seem to be a simple metaphor, but for the baby it’s a terrible truth, which will certainly happen because of him! Which child will be calm, knowing that it can cause illness or death of a loved one. Such phrases will help grow a neurotic, with increased anxiety, and deeply hidden fears. Who needs such happiness?
3. Do not touch! Trying to protect your offspring from any dangers, or forbidding your child something too often, you can achieve the opposite result - the child will not recognize truly unsafe things or, conversely, will look for the source of adrenaline. Most often, the child grows apathetic, has no interests, or another extreme, which also will not add your nerves.
4. Brainless! A critical assessment of any characteristics of the crumbs, especially mental abilities, very wounds a young heart. You need to learn to fight from an early age, to go to the end, without fear of defeat and mistakes. You need to fight, get up from your knees and catch up, strive for your goal or dream, try to do something again, until it works out. And such phrases do not contribute to the development of self-confidence. It is important to build self-confidence.
5. Acting like a child! I’ll tell you a secret - he is a child, small, inept. Even if the family already has smaller children, this child also needs loving parents, he does not become an adult if he helps you raise a baby. He is physically unable to master some things - the development of the brain is not yet at that level.Do not forget that childhood is a time for entertainment and growth, he can only be conditionally responsible for his actions. Be close and enjoy every minute of their childhood, because these moments are priceless, like the small victories of small people.
Most children like to listen to fairy tales, but parents do not always have the opportunity to read a fairy tale to their child; in this situation, audio tales will help you. Listening to audio tales will bring a lot of joy to the kids, who do not yet know how to read books on their own.
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About point 4 I read a lot of research. So to speak, the child not only programs himself to the fact that he is really bad and stupid, but can even begin to behave this way on purpose. In an extreme case, it is better to criticize the bad action, and not the child himself.
Yes, the power of the parent word is great. Sometimes, pronounced on an emotional wave, it may turn out to be prophetic for a child. And everyone can remember whether the mother said good or bad, which subsequently influenced her whole life.
In fact, the number of words and phrases that destroy the psyche of the child (and, therefore, his health, self-esteem) is much greater. Probably dozens of them, maybe hundreds. In childhood, I was hurt by the words of rejection, indifference and unwillingness of my parents to delve into my problems. This is a pain that leaves a deep mark and leads to terrible consequences for a lifetime.