“Give, give, give !!! Buy, buy, buy !!! ” Ahhhhh !!!!! I want, I want, I want this konfetuuuuuuuu !. How do you feel when a child starts asking for something in the store? And, sometimes, just hysteria? How to prevent this behavior? What measures to take if the child is not inferior?
I happened to live in Germany for almost a year in one German family in which they raised three children - one and a half, four and seven years. Their mother managed to build relationships with children in such a way that she became for me a model for solving many educational processes related to my own babies.
We often went shopping all together, but I never had a chance to witness a single child’s tantrum in the store. Girls behaved calmly and politely and always helped mom with purchases.
During this year, I was able to get acquainted with some simple ways of raising children as a mother from Germany. I think that a few strategic lessons from an experienced mother will help you.
The child is hysterical in the middle of the store: 6 tips to prevent blackmail
1. Do not go shopping hungry
"You are not yourself when you're hungry". When a child is hungry, it is difficult for him to explain why he does not need to buy this chocolate bar or chips: these products are not classified as healthy foods. The kid wants to eat, and becomes moody, crying. Adults act on the same principle: the more hungry they go to the store, the more junk food they put in a cart.
Going shopping well-fed, the decision to purchase a product becomes more deliberate.
2. Buy products strictly according to the list
Going shopping, ahead of time with your child, make a list of the necessary products. Compose it together, listening to the baby's advice. Ask him what is best to buy: plain cabbage or broccoli?
Shopping according to a pre-compiled list saves time in the store and helps explain to the child why it is impossible to put unplanned packaging with chips in the shopping cart - the list was compiled together, and there are no chips in this list.
A child who is entrusted with his mother to make a shopping plan will be more serious about observing it.
3. Take a snack with you on the road
If you have to drive to the store for a rather long time, the baby may get hungry and capricious.
Let mom have something tasty, healthy, so-called snack in her purse. That the child really likes. For example, an apple or nuts. Perhaps the baby likes other fruits or vegetables. This will be a great replacement for the fast food malls offered.
If the baby is still small, cut the fruits and vegetables into slices to make it easier to eat. Do not forget to bring water with you on the trip.
4. Get your child involved in product choices
Ask your child to choose the healthiest, freshest and most delicious product. Let him consider the product label. If you can read, pay attention to the expiration date.
Often in kindergartens, educators talk about proper nutrition, expired products, and that you cannot eat old and spoiled ones. The kid will gladly apply his knowledge for the good of the family.
Thus, you will teach your baby to choose the right products. The person entrusted with such an adult responsibility will take it very seriously.
5. Make shopping fun
In the store you can arrange a variety of games that distract your child from possible vagaries. Play with the baby. For example, make a map of the departments that you plan to visit in advance and hand it to the baby. May he lead you.
Ask your child to find the most beautiful pasta package in the store. Or collect several products of the same color. Or show the funniest vegetable or fruit.
6. The child made a tantrum in the store
In a situation where, contrary to all your efforts, the child’s hysteria still happened, count to yourself up to ten. Or remember Carlson’s favorite expression: “calm, only calm!” And try to hold on.
Under no pretext, do not agree to fulfill the condition set by the baby: buy me this chocolate bar, then I will get up from the floor and stop crying. If you once refused to buy a chocolate bar or a packet of cookies, firmly stand your ground.
Give in to the child’s hysteria only once, and he will feel that he will always be able to achieve what he wants. Suppose that today you find yourself in a difficult and unpleasant situation, let you see the condemning views of others, remain firm in your decision. Then you thank yourself for it.
At home, in a calm environment, it is necessary to explain to the child how much such tantrums are unacceptable in the future. Tell us how ugly it looks from the outside. And how such behavior upsets mom.
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Eh, I did not know such information before. By stupidity she succumbed to the provocation of the child, now I just don’t go to the store with him, because he knows that he will get everything from me by hysteria. The kid now walks with dad, he’s already used to his severity and behaves normally with him in the store.
I believe that you can’t go on about the child, then the child feels like a master, and thinks that everything is possible for him. I always try to behave calmly in such a situation, take him aside, wait until he cries, and try to explain to him that this is not necessary. I also buy him juice, he will drink it and for some reason he will calm down! 🙂
I’ve been trying to teach my children since childhood that money is earned by hard work. Sometimes I show it clearly, for example, I suggest weeding the beds and for this I give about 5 rubles. Therefore, in the store they are sympathetic to negative answers
Controversial and controversial topic. It is important to understand why the child began to behave this way and only after finding out the reason, one can determine how to sow to parents.