Child and hobby: what adults need to know about it

One of the great teachers once said the phrase: "A child is the same person as an adult, only a small one." Despite the uncomplicated nature of these words, they nevertheless have a great meaning: yes, the child is the same person as we adults. What is allowed to an adult must be allowed to a small person. For example, to have your own hobby.

Of course, when a child chooses a hobby, he finds it more difficult than an adult. The child does not yet have worldly experience and the necessary knowledge; he has not yet formed a psyche. In the end, he does not know what a hobby is, and therefore he is attracted to some subject or occupation purely intuitively and with a cognitive purpose. If a little man likes some subject or occupation, it may very well be that sooner or later such an object or occupation will become a real hobby for your child.

Do I need a hobby for a child?

Before you start talking about a children's hobby, you need to answer a few general questions. Do children need a hobby or is it a “hobby” exclusively for adults? What gives a child a hobby? How can it affect the development of your baby?

In principle, all these questions have long been answered, and they are. Yes, a hobby for children is needed, it plays a very important role in its development. First of all, this refers to psychological development. When a small person is engaged in some business not out of duty, but solely for the sake of his pleasure - this can increase his self-esteem, helps develop psychological stability, and form his own unique ideas about the world around him. In addition, a child who is keen on something is usually much more independent in everyday life than that kid who has no hobby.

According to many children's psychologists, it is better if the child chooses an activity that is not his daily activity as a hobby. In other words, which is not his direct life obligation. For example, school and fishing are not connected in any way. However, if the child intelligently combines study and fishing, this may develop additional abilities, skills and knowledge that will help him in his studies. The child will learn to be patient and assiduous, gain a lot of additional knowledge about nature, become physically stronger, etc.

It happens that some kind of children's hobby can subsequently turn into a real profession. Suppose a child became interested in modeling ships, began to delve into the details of shipbuilding and, after graduating from school, decided to become a shipbuilding engineer.In addition, your child’s hobby often helps shape the character of the baby. For example, fidget children, in order to develop perseverance and attentiveness in them, can help their favorite pastime, where patience and thoughtfulness are needed. For example, modeling, knitting, embroidery, weaving, etc.

It will be better if the hobbies correspond to the temperament of the child:

1. For example, if a child is a choleric, then in this case some kind of hobby related to movement (for example, a sports section or a dance studio) will be very useful.
2. Due to the peculiarities of their temperament, melancholy children in this sense are more suitable for a hobby related to creativity.
3. It is better for a phlegmatic child to do science or design, but if the child is a sanguine, then in this case it would be more reasonable if he tries as many classes as possible and eventually dwells on one of his own tastes.

Of course, these are extremely general recommendations: it can happen that a wonderful musician lurks in a choleric, and a wonderful ballerina is in the melancholic.

How to help your child in choosing a hobby?

Choosing a hobby for your child is not as simple as it may seem. Here a lot depends on the children themselves. More precisely, from the characteristics of child psychology. Each little person in his own way studies the world around him, adapts to the world, gives him an assessment, determines his place in the world. Every child has its own character and, therefore, its emerging interests.

Therefore, the position of adults is of great importance here. Of course, the frequent change of interests and the desire of children to "try everything" can cause an adult a lot of trouble. Here, an adult should be patient and wise. First of all, such wisdom should be to provide the child with the opportunity to try and experience this very “all-all”. It is clear that within reasonable limits.

In this case, an adult should guide the child, help him in the formation of interests, it is fascinating to explain to the baby why he needs to do this particular thing, and not some other. Of course, all this must be done very carefully, taking into account many nuances: the desire of the child himself, especially his temperament and character, age, state of health, availability of opportunities. Let's say a child wants to do the same fishing as his hobby, but there is no river or lake nearby. Here, the child needs to explain everything and try to captivate him with some other activity.

It is very important not to impose a hobby on a child against his will. A stick hobby is bad. Such coercion can cause a sharp protest in children and permanently discourage the desire to engage in anything other than elementary everyday duties. As a result, an insecure, notorious, and embittered person can grow out of a child.

If the child is truly carried away by any occupation, it is highly recommended to encourage him in every possible way. It is necessary to ask as often as possible how the baby is progressing and what successes he has achieved. It is very important to periodically ask the child if he needs help. If, for example, a child is engaged in modeling, drawing or embroidery, it is advisable to allocate a separate place for his crafts. In addition, it will be reasonable to share his activity with the child: go fishing together, design together, walk the puppy together, play football, embroider, etc.

What affects the choice of children's hobbies?

There are many factors that in one way or another affect the choice of children's hobbies. You should pay attention to them, otherwise misunderstandings will arise between children and parents. Say, sometimes parents can take hostility into their child’s hobby. But if parents have an idea about the above factors, then misunderstandings and conflicts can be avoided.

• Very often, children's interests coincide with the interests of their parents. This is understandable: each child is more or less striving to imitate his parents. Including parental hobbies.A common hobby for parents and children is very important: when a parent and a child are passionate about a common activity, a close spiritual relationship is formed between them. This relationship helps a lot in raising a child;
• The child has a genetic disposition for a particular occupation. For example, a musician may be born in a family of hereditary engineers, or, say, in a family of workers, a son who is passionate about sports. In this case, it makes no sense to remake the child in his own image and likeness. On the contrary, having an idea of ​​the genetic inclinations, one should in every way encourage the hobbies of a son or daughter;
• In many ways, hobbies in children are formed under the influence of parents. It is clear that there can be such hobbies from which parents should dissuade their child by all possible means. If the parents are sure that the hobby cannot do any harm to their son or daughter, then it will be right to convince the child in every way that he has chosen the right hobby for himself. In this case, the parent must from time to time show a delicate and at the same time sincere interest in the children's hobby. Such interest will convince the child that he is doing the right and useful thing;
• An important role in choosing a hobby is played by latent unfulfilled parental desires. For example, in childhood, my mother wanted to become a musician, but for some reason this dream of hers did not come true. And so, such a mother struggles to make a musician out of her daughter, guided by the principle "if it did not work out for me, then let it work out for my daughter." Unfulfilled parental desire is a dangerous thing: it may absolutely not take into account the fact that the child has absolutely no desire to make music, and besides, he does not have any abilities for this. Here, parents should learn one simple and at the same time great truth: he, the parent, and his child are completely different people.

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Speaking of unfulfilled parental desires, I would like to give one classic example. At one time, the mother of the great Russian poet Alexander Pushkin stubbornly tried to teach him dancing. And she was very annoyed when she saw that little Sasha was not able to master even the simplest dance moves. In the end, Sasha flatly refused to dance, telling his mother that he likes writing more. What came of this in the end is known to all mankind: Sasha became a great poet, but at the same time he hated dancing for his whole life.

What problems can be when choosing a favorite activity for a child?

Quite often, when choosing a hobby, a child may have rather specific difficulties and problems. You should also be aware of this. In the end, in order to eliminate this or that problem, you should first thoroughly study it. Here is a list of the main problems that, in one way or another, can affect a child’s choice of a hobby, as well as tips on how to solve these problems.

• The child is not interested in anything, and he does not need any hobby. Of course, not every child should have some favorite hobby: this is a matter of choosing the child himself. But at the same time, it often happens that the absence of a specific hobby affects children very negatively: a child getting lazyabsent-minded, can fall under someone’s bad influence or acquire bad habits (also a kind of hobby, but only a negative one). In this case, adults should make considerable efforts to entice their daughter or son with some kind of activity, taking into account their interests and abilities;
• The reverse situation is that the child is so keen on his favorite thing that he forgets everything else. It must be borne in mind that such a hobby can subsequently develop into a full-fledged and, moreover, beloved profession. Therefore, in no case should not take away from the child his passion. But it is necessary to adjust interest in him. In this case, the child needs to be explained that good schooling will help to achieve even greater success in his passion;
• A child changes hobbies almost daily.Of course, here it is necessary to trace what he is changing, and for what reason, however, there is nothing dangerous in this. The child is seeking: this is the stage of its development and its right. In the end, he will almost certainly dwell on the passion that best suits his character and interests;
• The child is overly attached to the computer. Of course, a computer can also be a hobby: however, there can be many dangers. If a son or daughter is passionate about all kinds of “shooters” and wandering around social networks, then, of course, you should try to make corrections in such a hobby. For example, a child must be convinced that a computer is not only social networks and “shooters,” but also an opportunity to acquire a useful profession: designer, layout designer, programmer, etc. In addition, it is imperative to convince a child that he needs to time left the computer and did some physical exercises;
• Another problem that can be called a “wrong hobby”. Usually this is such an activity, which, according to parents, is unusual for the gender of the child. For example, when a boy loves embroidery, knitting, or is fond of cultivating flowers - this, according to many parents, is “not a man’s business”. Or, if the daughter likes to play hockey - this, respectively, is “not for girls.” You should not be afraid here: occupation does not affect the sexual orientation of the child. So there is no need to prohibit anything and, moreover, to intimidate the child and make fun of him. It would be wiser to give him the opportunity to be himself.

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To summarize ...

A hobby for a child is very important. It largely shapes the children's character and worldview. A child who has a favorite pastime grows into a free person and a creative person. In addition, as already mentioned, children's hobbies often turn into a full-fledged profession.

But all this is possible only if the child chooses a hobby for himself. No need for a child to frankly impose an adult will in choosing. Of course, if the baby is in difficulty, then the adult is obliged to help him. However, such assistance should be extremely delicate and take into account the nature, inclinations and desires of the child himself.

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