Dreams and fantasies are common to all children from a very young age. Such an interesting way of thinking gradually fades over the years, since with age a person thinks more rationally and no longer gives free rein to the imagination.
In fact, for the baby’s thinking to evolve non-standard, creative abilities and inclinations appear, it is simply necessary to fantasize. A child who knows how to invent and dream, grows free, open, kind, easily makes contact. Developed thinking is an integral part of the psychological development of the child. Remember your childhood, when lying on the grass, you came up with images for floating clouds, or you could arrange a real battle without a single toy. All adults, too, were once small inventors.
But, nevertheless, parents are often worried about the question of where to see that feature of children's inventions, when they already border on the danger to the psyche.
Aggressive fantasies
Situations are very common when, yesterday, a child associated himself with a good doctor, a lifeguard swimmer, and today, with a fierce scream, he “flies” around the room and destroys everything around him, and insults other children in kindergarten. Fantasies suddenly cross the line of what is permissible and become aggressive. The child is more and more fond of warfare, crushing, breaking, destroying under the guise of monsters and villains, transferring a hostile attitude into everyday life. And now he already associates another person with Evil and can begin to fight against him physically.
If something like this started to happen to your child, you should immediately identify the causes of this behavior. Often, traumatic psyche real experiences can be transferred to the game.
Seen violence, family scandals, resentment and the expectation of punishment - all this can lead to aggressive fantasies. A child who is capable of violence is most often convinced that he is not loved.
In addition, an aggressive form of imagination leads to watching films and cartoons that are not suitable for a child by age. A preschooler still cannot clearly distinguish the image of good. And if, for example, a seemingly positive cartoon character (Batman, Superman, Spider-Man) physically destroys his opponents in the fight against evil and injustice, the unripened psyche of the child takes it for granted. There is a substitution of the concepts of Evil and Good, in the head of a child they simply mix.
The actions of parents with this problem are clear: you need to limit the child from inappropriate cartoons, videos and films, you should not involve a child in watching adult films, it would seem, the most harmless content, it is not for nothing that there is an age qualification.
If your baby’s imagination has become aggressive, show more tenderness and affection to the child, play good games (10 games to overcome child aggression), explain the difference between good and bad characters, review your own system of punishments and rewards. Only loving parents can find a compromise, teach children how to deal with negative emotions.
False
The child can begin to use imagination in an unnatural form and begin to lie openly. Most often, a child needs a lie for personal gain and can become a habit, so you need to identify the cause of the lie. A child can be banal in fear of punishment, so transfer the blame for the misconduct to a fictional character, animals, relatives. If a child is deceiving, increasing his real merits, he says that he won in something, that he was praised or awarded, but this actually did not happen, then the problem lies in the uncertainty and desire to feel support and personal significance. Sometimes children try to justify themselves with a lie. “I left myself, they didn’t kick me out”, “He first started” - such phrases characterize self-doubt. The child may begin to tell others a lie about his own family, this is the first alarming signal about the violation of relations among relatives.
Do not try to eradicate lies from the child with punishments and screams, teach him to trust you, show the consequences of a lie by your own example, tell us how important trust in the family and friendship is. Approach the situation with the mind. Do not display lies yourself and condemn it from others.
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Fears
Almost all children are subject to a wide variety of fears: confined spaces, loneliness, darkness. Kids are scared of unnatural sounds and even too bright objects.
If your kid invented a bedside monster, or a monster in the closet, this is not a manifestation of sick imagination, but a projection of children's fears. To prevent the condition from becoming pathological, help the child overcome fears. Draw good monsters, come up with a magic spell or supermark from all the villains, talk and explain.
Often, children's fears are caused by ignorance, if the baby cannot explain any phenomenon to himself, he dramatizes what is happening and invents danger. Explain common phenomena to children, show how and what works, happens.
Fictional friend
The appearance of an unreal comrade is a frequent occurrence. On the one hand, such a friend helps a child survive and accept a situation, express his emotions, show leadership, on the other hand, it is an indicator of a lack of communication. Moreover, communication here is measured by quality indicators, the point is not in the total time spent with the baby, but in what kind of emotions the child experiences, can he express himself and be frank.
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If the fantasy with the fictional comrade is healthy, then the child is definitely aware of the line with reality, understands and himself says what is true and what is for fun.
If the child crosses the line and does not realize the difference between the world concocted and the real, then you should contact a psychologist until this form of imagination has negatively affected the psyche.
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Fantasies cannot be unnecessarily and unnecessarily eradicated; on the contrary, it is important to help the child develop his imagination: play, invent, craft, not throw away the collected treasures in the form of pebbles and sticks, but in every way contribute to the development of the child’s creativity and personality.
All children are not alike, each is individual and unique in its own way.
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How does children's fantasy work?
For some reason, my 3-year-old son becomes aggressive and uncontrollable after watching any cartoons. He fights, defends his territory, and he can only hear: “give, go, mine.” Probably, you need to include good cartoons or limit the time on the TV.
I don’t think that drawing good monsters will help the child get rid of fear of them, it’s best to mention them as little as possible with the kid. When we noticed that the son became afraid of the dark and the monsters living in it, we explained to him that they did not exist in life. They began to watch cartoons about good with him. We tried to turn his attention to good characters and over time, these fears passed.