Lazy child: how to deal with childhood laziness and how to teach children to work

It’s great if your child is a good helper who, without reminder, cleans up the room, removes trash, removes toys, walks with the dog. However, not all mothers and fathers are so lucky. Some parents daily struggle with little "lazy people", annoyed and sometimes breaking into a cry. Where does baby laziness come from? How to accustom a lazy child to work?

What can be hidden behind laziness of the child

Psychologists say that laziness in children does not appear from scratch. You may see the true causes of such annoying behavior if you look closely at your baby.

1. Lack of motivation

Remember, with what burning eyes children do what they like. But as soon as adults turn homework into a boring duty, boring and monotonous chores, the child's interest disappears, and any activity becomes a burden.

2. Temperament

Psychological features and individual personality traits are what children are born with. A little phlegmatic is slow, but from the outside it seems that he does not want to do anything. However, it is useless to push him; he will work at his own pace. Sometimes lazy choleric children are also considered lazy, who like to play, but consider cleaning toys a boring task.

3. Self-doubt

Sometimes laziness hides an unwillingness to learn something new, a fear of failure. If a child is not confident in his own abilities, shy, psychologically dependent on his parents, he is often afraid of new responsibilities and activities. Even adults do not want to do those things in which they feel unsuccessful. However, they justify themselves, and they attach the label of a lazy person to the baby.

4. Overwork

If the daily routine of children is too dense and saturated (kindergarten, development center, pool, dance club), laziness appears due to elementary overwork.

In addition, laziness can be a response to a shortage of game activity and physical activity when parents want to raise a child prodigy. In this case, the child’s pre-school years are in continuous study, and his needs for games and constant movements are not satisfied. There is a banal psychological fatigue, which smoothly flows into unwillingness to act.

5. Excessive custody

Sometimes adults themselves teach children to be lazy, limiting their independence at a young age. “Why do you dig so long? Let me help"- Moms and grandmothers constantly say and begin to clean up toys for the crumb, feed them, put them on. Of course, seniors do this much faster and more accurately. However, in this way they develop in the child the habit of waiting for other people to do all the work for him.

So, children's laziness does not appear from anywhere, most often it is formed, nurtured and nurtured by parents and other relatives. Creating “greenhouse” conditions that prevent children from making and correcting mistakes, taking initiative, and choosing interesting activities, adults thereby educate lodgers. Nevertheless, one should not despair - there is a way out. In a situation with children's laziness, as well as in solving other pedagogical and psychological problems, prevention is much better than treatment.

How to accustom children to work: advice from psychologists

1. Personal example

Toddlers learn new things by imitating their parents. If a baby sees from early childhood that mom and dad are not enthusiastic about household chores, he will begin to copy their behavior, just as dismissively reacting to parental instructions. Therefore, you should not show dissatisfaction with your work with children, otherwise you will not be able to instill in your child a love of work.

2. Promotion Initiative

Do not strive to fulfill all duties for your children, give them the opportunity to enjoy independence. This is especially true for three to four year old babies who are especially interested in doing the same thing as their parents. Therefore, forget the words "do not bother", "you are still small." If the child wants to wash a plate, water the garden bed in the country, do not bother him. Moreover, he must do the work himself, even if it takes half an hour instead of your five minutes. But the crumbs will have reason to be proud of themselves.

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3. Creativity

Sometimes children do not have enough inspiration to act. To convince the baby to put the toys in their places, some parents resort to the “carrot” (cartoon, dainty) or threaten with a “whip” (punishment). Psychologists believe that such an approach kills the desire to work. Instead, they advise turning such an uninteresting activity, like cleaning, into an exciting game. For example, collect cars and dolls racing. Or hide some small “secret” in the middle of the toys and try to find it together.

4. Reasonable criticism

In order not to discourage the child from any desire to work, give up unconstructive criticism. Better understand why your child does not cope with school lessons, can not learn a poem for a matinee. Give the kid advice - what he needs to do so that next time he will succeed. And yet, do not call children lazy people and clumsy people; by this you will not only not accustom them to work, but also lower their self-esteem.

5. Household duties

Try to assign certain tasks to the younger generation, moreover, they should be specific and really necessary, and not invented with an educational purpose.

So, children 3-4 years old can:

• clean the toys behind you;
• help with table setting;
• dust off;
• to dress, wash and brush your teeth.

A child of 5-6 years old already knows how:

• clean up your own room;
• fold your clothes in place;
• take care of your beloved pet;
• make and lay the bed;
• look after your younger brother or sister.

At 7-9 years old children are able to:

• vacuuming;
• going to school on your own (of course, with mom’s control);
• wash up;
• help grandmother in the country;
• make sandwiches.

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• 6 ways to motivate a child correctly
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Opinions of parents from the forums

mashkin29 I think lazy children do not exist .... there are lazy parents 🙂 who have not been able to interest their child, find a dialogue with him, convey the need for what they want from him ... and all this starting from about 6 months of age, approximately, and after 3 years it’s too late. how old are you, and since when is he lazy? in what directions?

alenkin92 Children often quickly light up and die out right away. they do not like to do monotonous, boring, uninteresting work.

Pauline Now there are many such children who do not want to do anything. And we, the parents, are to blame. We do not limit their sitting at the computer, we do not spend enough time with children.And the children just copy their parents ... We must be less lazy ourselves, do everything together with the children. But what the psychologist says about modern children and their problems with lack of initiative and laziness.

In no case should domestic duties and instructions be punished for misconduct and misconduct. On the contrary, encourage children to do housework. For example, stay longer at the zoo or go to the movies.

And, of course, do not forget to praise the baby when he first helps you in any business or gets a good grade. Often, it is the praise of the parents that becomes the main incentive for accustoming the child to work.

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