Relations with your own child is a complex system of parental behavior, trust and respect, love and anxiety for the future crumbs. It is important to be aware of some significant points that are often forgotten in the hustle and bustle of proper education.
- It is important to understand that a child is not a part of you. This is an original person with his own special and unlike other inner world. Do not try to form the ideal of man out of him. Do not try to let the child fulfill what you dreamed of and could not achieve. On the contrary, make every effort to make your baby become himself and realize his, and not someone else's, desires.
- Accept that the process of life is cyclical. They gave you life, you gave it to another person, he will give it to someone else. To demand gratitude for this or, even worse, a fee, is simply pointless. After all, the grass does not pay the land for the fact that it allows you to grow on it. The desire to receive payment from a child for giving birth to him, giving shelter and food, upbringing and education is a direct path to misunderstanding and loss of trust in a relationship.
- What you sow, you will reap, as the people said. Displacement on a weak child of his tiredness, anger and resentment will lead to a similar attitude of an adult man and to you. If you do not want to spend old age in quarrels with your own blood, think and change your attitude right now.
- Why do you think that your “adult” problems are more important than the problems of the child? A big mistake in upbringing is to look down on the supposedly fictitious adversities of the child with disdain. It is really more difficult for a child to cope with some seemingly simple tasks due to his little life experience. If you do not want an adult child to suffer from constant fear of life's difficulties, then your task is to teach him the correct attitude and solution to problem situations from childhood.
- To humiliate a child means using his own, loving maternal or paternal hands to dig a hole for him for complexes from which a person will most likely never get out. Did you give birth to a baby to mock him?
- The child, the younger he is, the stronger attention, care and sensitivity from parents are needed. Without these factors, the full development of a small personality is impossible. Accept that time cannot be more important than spending with your child.
- It is foolish to be tormented because you cannot give any special material benefits to your child. You have every right to reproach yourself only when you can do something, but you don’t. Do not be lazy to read the book to your baby, sing a lullaby for the night, draw or hang with him from plasticine. It's much more important for crumbs than a trendy smartphone, studying at Harvard, or a vacation at Disneyland.
- No matter how difficult it is to raise a child, it is a mistake to consider him your tormentor. A child is the great happiness bestowed by the Lord.You have been given a great opportunity to develop and educate a worthy and talented person.
- There are no foreign children, no matter how beaten up this popular phrase may sound. Never act with strangers children as you would not wish to do with yours.
- Love your child simply because he is your child. Whether he is talented, beautiful, healthy, this is the tenth matter. The most important thing is your blood, your genes, your life. Stronger than him, no one can love you.
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