A surprisingly simple instruction for parents was found by me on the Internet. It is a pity that not every family “works” such a system of education for children of any age.
Raising a child in Tibetan traditions excludes even the slightest use of force. Physically punishing a child is easy, because the baby is much weaker than adults and is not able to fight back. Therefore, many parents use their power advantage. Most of these parents at first glance seem cute, wonderful dads and mothers, but this is just an illusion.
Periods of child development and the behavior of parents corresponding to them
- From 0 to 5 years
The kid should feel like a full owner in the house or simply saying “king”. It is at this age that the child experiences the greatest peak of curiosity, begins to be actively interested in the outside world. To prohibit taking or doing something is the wrong way out. Parents need to try to switch the attention of the baby to another object, to interest him in something useful.
On this topic: how to say “no” and “not to” to a child
If the baby has already managed to break his mother's favorite vase, then you should not swear. If he does something dangerous, then it’s enough to pretend to be scared, make a scared face and make a scared exclamation. Children well understand such a sign language, but they do not know how to reason logically, and forceful punishment will simply suppress the desire to study the world. In the wrong way of upbringing, the child will eventually only obey the one who is physically stronger than him. Few people are happy with such a result of education, right?
- 5 to 10 years
This is the opposite period of education compared to the first. Here, the child needs to be treated as “To the slave”: constantly set tasks and demand fulfillment, make you study. Each task will have to be controlled, and if it is not fully completed, you can be punished, but not physically. At this age, children actively develop intelligence, the child must learn to predict the reaction of people to his actions. The method of education will help the child win respectful attitude and firmly avoid any negative.
- 10 to 15 years old
This period raises many questions from parents, but the answer to them is the simplest: treat your child as an equal. You still can’t compare with it, you have too much experience for this, but giving the right to independent choice is simply necessary. Talk and talk, make decisions together, try for your daughter or son to become a friend. Let the teenager make their own choices. Consult with your child on all important issues, provide and encourage independence. If you notice that the decision is rash - do not prohibit or insist, just predict and voice the possible negative consequences, a little push to the right decision.
You need to present your point of view only in “velvet gloves”, with undeniable benefits.At this age, a stable own position should be formed, one's own view of everything that is happening. This is exactly the moment when the child begins to become independent, and you will become a real assistant to him in this.
- After 15 years
The process of personality formation is complete. It doesn’t make sense to re-educate children, as it doesn’t work out, it remains only to learn to respect the choice of your child, that is, “reap your rewards.
What can lead to non-compliance with such rules?
- A child under 5 years old, accustomed to suppression by force, will not strive for action, will not become inquisitive. He will learn to obey the stronger. As a result, turn into a "rag" for people more powerful.
- If after 5 years the parents will indulge the child in everything, then a real lazy person will grow out of him, not able to work and achieve goals.
- Excessive custody of a child older than 10 years will make him insecure. He will be dependent on more powerful and independent friends, but they will not always be able to have a positive impact on him.
- If the child after 15 years old does not feel respect for himself, then he will soon leave the family, he simply will not be able to forgive this.
How do you raise your children?
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- Top 10 Parent Mistakes in Parenting;
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In our realities, the Tibetan method of education does not work. My fool only understands power, and if you give a descent, it will crawl out onto your head. I was brought up with a belt, and I do so that they would not say.
The article was impressive. I never would have thought that there could be such an upbringing. Maybe I’ll even try. The child is a little less than a year old. At least fit into the first stage))) But then, let's see