Healthy egoism is a necessary trait of character, and its presence in an adult is absolutely not forbidden. But where is the edge of rational “self-love” and selfishness that goes beyond the norm? Parents with young children will have to try, because their most important task is to raise the baby not greedy, generous to others. How to achieve the desired results will be discussed in the article.
Children surrounded by the care and love of grandparents, parents, often grow up in an atmosphere of permissiveness. Of course, relatives want to give the baby only the best, but often the result is excessive greed, unwillingness to share. The child cares only about his well-being, he absolutely does not take into account the needs and requirements of others.
Perhaps the situation will change over the years, a grown up child will understand that some actions are not too good. But often childhood greed progresses with age, resulting in other, even more serious problems. There are certain tips on how to develop generosity in a child that will help prevent the unpleasant consequences of poor parenting.
Parent behavior is the best example for a child
To begin with, it’s worth thinking about how we behave ourselves in the family, in relations with others and with each other, are there any “notes” of greed in this interaction? Often the egoism of the parents just rolls over, and sometimes the rights of the child are infringed. Avoid manifestations of greed in front of the child is impossible, because he always takes an example from the behavior of parents! Analyze if there is a place for greed in your family relationships. For example, are you selfish towards your husband or your child? More often demonstrate generosity in the openings of the child: share food, make small gifts, provide assistance. Show your child that doing good is pleasant and exciting. Then he, looking at happy mom and dad, who never spare anything for each other, will reconsider his attitude to his own greed.
In order not to know any problems with the child’s behavior in the future, you need to teach him to do good from an early age, and the most effective way is by example. Seeing how good deeds give adults a sense of happiness, the baby will probably want to experience the same feelings and will not become greedy. On the contrary, the lack of generosity on the part of adults is a sure way for children to grow up mean and cruel to the world around them.
Children are our mirror, and most of the problems in their character come from their parents.
Swearing and reproaching - a sure way to exacerbate the problem
Manifestations of greed occur in each of us, especially in children.If such a phenomenon was noted by parents, you do not need to immediately try to shame or, even worse, sharply scold the baby, this can make the baby more angry and cause him to withdraw into himself or regularly go against his parents. Better pretend that you do not pay attention to his greed, just do not react to it. But when the child finally shows a long-awaited feeling of generosity and cordiality, then boldly praise him and encourage him. This works in almost 100% of cases, because the child will remember the reaction of parents to certain actions and will seek to repeat them.
Violence is not an appropriate method of education
Often, when a child in the playground categorically does not want to give his toy to another baby, mommy forcibly takes the toy from her child and gives it to a stranger. Such actions will never make a child generous! But in his head the fact of “betrayal” from the side of the closest person may be delayed, because it seems to him that mother loves another child more. The baby will not make a single positive conclusion from this situation, while he will be able to relate to his mother in a different way.
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The game is a great option for the development of generosity
To get rid of greed and be generous can help your favorite pastime of children - a game. Parents can simulate situations that will then be transferred to real life. For example, giving the child any goodies, give them in pairs: two candies, two apples, etc. So it will be easier for him to share what he received with his sister, friend, or someone else, since there will be no sensation of the “last piece”. Play games where the heroes share, read books about generosity and kindness. You can use the so-called “idea of exchange”: it will be easier for a child to give his friend a toy if in exchange for some time he gets the opportunity to play a stranger.
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Generosity makes life more interesting
It is worthwhile to make it clear to the child that manifestations of generosity can be a very exciting experience. For example, going to a birthday party for one of the familiar kids, go pick a gift. Make the selection process for your son or daughter exciting: go around all the shops, choose the best gift in his or her opinion, wrap it with a beautiful ribbon and give it with a sincere smile on your face.
Often greed as a character trait occurs in children who, in truth, lack something in life. Gifts, toys in reasonable quantities are necessary for any baby, and this does not mean the need to pamper him. Also, one must not forget about emotional intimacy, because a lack of attention also entails negative consequences. An ideal way to give your child the best upbringing is to let him grow up in a happy family and a loving, friendly atmosphere!
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You are trying to teach your child not to be greedy, but he flatly refuses to share toys on the playground, and answers any tantrum to share tantrums? Psychologist Viktoria Lyuborevich-Torkhova identified five phrases that will help the child not to be greedy:
I have two children and they are the weather, I always buy them something in common. For example, a designer or a set of cars, and I say that this is for the two of you, and those who are greedy will not get anything and they will always share. So is something delicious, a packet for two, and they eat together, and share with other children)
If you do not take any measures and ignore the greed of the child, it is unlikely that he will become generous. Bringing generosity in a child is a long and painstaking process and this process can take more than one year. My daughter first signs of greed began to appear in a year, and almost completely I eradicated it only in 4 years.