One of the important stages of raising a child is the formation of self-confidence in him. Psychologists explain that this character trait helps children tackle complex tasks and try something new. If the child is not sure of his own abilities, he will be afraid to be known as a failure, to disappoint loved ones and cause disapproval of others. In the future, such a person will not be able to achieve success in his career, because employees who take responsibility and offer non-standard, risky solutions to various problems are especially appreciated. Follow our recommendations - and grow a confident child, ensuring him a successful future.
Praise the child not only for success, but also for efforts (regardless of whether the child succeeded or not)
Achieving the goal is important for adults, and the child only learns - first hold a spoon and walk on the pottythen read, write, play ball games. Therefore, the requirements for children should be different. At the stage of growing up, the learning process itself is important, so parents should encourage the child’s efforts, regardless of whether he achieves success or not. If your son missed the goal while playing football, still applaud loudly and express your enthusiasm. It is impossible for the child to feel embarrassed if something did not work out for him. Let the kid understand that no one will mock him, condemn, scold him for his mistakes. In this case, he will not be afraid to try new things and study further.
Encourage practice
We noticed that the child was watching basketball on TV with interest, did he like to draw or sing? Try to encourage him to do this more often. The main thing is to act unobtrusively and without coercion. If you saw musical talent in your child, do not force him to play the piano to the pain in his hands. So you can completely discourage interest not only in a particular instrument, but in music in principle. All classes should be dosed, and let the teacher tell the mode of classes.
Let your child solve some of their problems on their own
Life throws up difficulties for everyone.A person must learn to cope with them as a child, because as they grow older, all problems will become only more serious. Therefore, give your child the opportunity to independently find a way out of difficult situations, to develop communication skills with different people. Try not to interfere constantly in the life of your child, trying to make it as easy as possible. Tell him advice, listen and cheer, but do not run immediately to punish his offenders, not even understanding the situation. If you constantly interfere in the life of a child, trying to protect him from all adversities, he will grow up independent and insecure. Then, even at the age of 40, your child will wait for his mother to come at any moment and solve his problem.
Challenge your child
Teach your child to always move forward. Let him know that achieving a small goal is just the beginning, now he can do something more meaningful. For example, if a child begins to learn to ride a two-wheeled bicycle, suggest that he remove the extra wheels. Convince him that he is ready to go and so, and you will insure him, if necessary.
Mistakes are an integral part of learning
We all learn from our mistakes, and children are no exception. Therefore, do not require the child to be perfect, he grasps everything the first time. Nothing if the child made an unfortunate mistake. But he is aware of his mistake, will draw a lesson from it, and next time he will better cope with the task.
Encourage childish curiosity
Children are little things. Of course, their endless questions tire and even begin to make the adults nervous. It is only important for parents to understand that, asking about something and learning new things, the child develops, replenishes his vocabulary, broadens his horizons. Getting answers for his “why,” the kid understands that there are so many interesting things in the world that he needs to learn more about. The child’s curiosity flares up, it motivates him to learn and grow above himself.
According to statistics, boys and girls, who in the first years of life ask a lot of questions to parents and get answers to them, overtake their classmates in elementary school. Such children are interested in learning new information, they learn better and absorb knowledge faster.
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Discover new opportunities
Try to take your child more often for walks and different trips, tell him something new, read interesting and informative books. All this contributes to the expansion of horizons and the formation of self-confidence.
Share your experience and knowledge.
The whole world of the baby in the first years of his life is parents. In his eyes, mom and dad are superheroes who can do anything. Become worthy role models. Pass on your knowledge to the baby, teach him everything that you can do.
Never criticize
Children are very vulnerable. Even if the child has failed, in no case do not criticize him, do not say that he did everything wrongly and incorrectly. Moreover, it is impossible to apply comparisons with children who turned out to be better, faster, smarter. Otherwise, you risk completely discouraging the child's desire to do anything. He simply begins to be afraid to disappoint his parents again and does not dare to try something new.
Support your child when he is experiencing difficulties and setbacks
No matter how talented your child may be, he still learns for himself the injustice of this life. He will face difficulties, suffer insulting failures. At such moments, the child needs his parents to simply support him. Remind your child that to achieve the goal you need to work hard and believe in your strength, and all the difficulties are only steps on the path to success.
Encourage the desire to try something new
Starting something new is always exciting. Therefore, be sure to support the child if he wants to enroll in a sports section or learn to skate.Praise him for wanting to do something useful. Tell your child that you are proud of how boldly he begins a new stage in his life.
Show the joy of learning
Each child copies the emotions and reactions of their parents, their attitude to different things. Take your child with you to the pool so that he sees the pleasure of swimming. Show how interesting it is to read in a foreign language, understanding the meaning of what is written. The child will see your reactions and will also be delighted with all these things.
We also read:
- 10 ways to teach your child to believe in yourself and not be afraid of anything
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- 12 tips for raising a confident child
- How to get through the crisis periods of childhood and adolescence and raise confidence and independence in a child. Parent Tips
- Unsure child: how to help your child become more confident
- Bad advice: how to raise a child insecure
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