All the children are different, and sometimes their behavior does not just infuriate, but even plunges into a stupor. Parents simply have no idea how to behave in provocative situations, when the child deliberately falls into a puddle in protest, or rolls a tantrum in the store, and make a number of mistakes in their behavior in relation to the child. Today we will announce some of the main mistakes so that you understand how to act in all kinds of unpleasant situations.
- War to the end
This reaction often follows the unbearable behavior of a beloved child. You need to uphold your point of view, but do not become a dictator. Constant reproaches and the imposition of one’s own opinion will inevitably cause protest and a desire to do the opposite. Such a confrontation only destroys the authority of the parent. Try to find a compromise and stop treating children as offenders.
- Suppression
A common mistake made by parents is to suppress the will of the child. Adults from the height of their age and experience believe that the child should obey unquestioningly, not show discontent and follow all their instructions strictly. By such actions you kill his own “I” in the child and bring up a limp personality.
Direct your experience and knowledge into a more peaceful direction, allow the baby to make decisions at least sometimes. Having made mistakes, he will quickly understand your point and will listen to your advice not because “it is necessary”, but because he will believe in your knowledge.
- We remove the belt to the side
And we are not doing this to spoil the child. Physical punishment is even more protest than any other. Forbid the kid to watch his favorite cartoons. Believe that this measure will affect him much more effectively than a belt. In addition, there were cases when, in a state of anger, parents inflicted physical harm on the child and then they themselves suffered, upholding the thresholds of doctors. In addition, frequent physical punishment can injure the still fragile psyche of the child. We read in detail:To beat or not to beat a child - the consequences of physical punishment of children
- Self-taught
Any normal parent should know how the child develops, how his intellectual and mental formation takes place. Nowadays, you can find a bunch of literature on these topics. And for a greater effect, you can also turn to specialists who will help you understand the basic principles of child development and tell you how you should behave in specific situations. Remember that improper upbringing can break the will of the child and adversely affect his whole future life.
- Encourage self expression
Allow your child to express himself reasonably, of course. By stopping all attempts to show independence, you interfere with the formation of the character of the baby.Depending on the characteristics of the child, such parental behavior can provoke spinelessness, adversely affect his sensitivity, intelligence and creative abilities. Let the child break the tenth machine or drag another homeless puppy home. Just do not forget to explain to the baby that in connection with his actions he also had new responsibilities. Let him learn to make informed decisions.
- Consider the opinion of the child
It seems that every parent should know this rule. The child must grow a full-fledged personality and have the same rights as adults. Engage him in a discussion of common family problems and listen to his opinion, even if it seems absurd to you. Otherwise, he may simply stop paying attention to you, and all his actions will be a protest to your upbringing. In addition, children who have grown limp, often fall under the negative influence of other people.
Dear parents, consider your child a full member of the family! Forget about dictatorship and imposing your interests and opinions. Let the baby develop harmoniously and grow into a full-fledged personality.
Important on the topic (we recommend reading):
25 tips for raising a child in love and peace;
- 10 tips to stop yelling at your children;
- Top 10 Parent Mistakes in Parenting;
- The child should not annoy!
- How to tell a child "DO NOT".
Video: What to do if a child behaves badly
It is not uncommon when a child begins to arrange tantrums when a second baby appears in the house, so he tries to attract your attention. Yes, and the tantrums themselves and unbearable behavior can serve as a kind of “sos” signal, so treat your children more carefully.
It is not for nothing that they say that a child under three years old should be treated like a king, in adolescence - like a slave, and after fifteen - like an equal. These are the rules of education in Japan, as far as I remember. That's how it seems to me, this is really correct.
You should never impose your opinion. Put yourself in the shoes of a child, what would you do? And now about the article. Written by a person who has children, all the tips in the topic. Especially the last two sections. I want to add a little, let the child have specific responsibilities for every day, this very instills a sense of duty. Parents, because we were also children, think about it.
Maryana, It’s not for nothing that they say that a child under three years of age should be treated like a king, but in the period from three to a teenager what should I do?))
in adolescence - as with a slave, but do you remember yourself as a teenager? If you were treated in this way, how did you behave with your parents?