Psychologists claim that families in which the father devotes a lot of time to communication with the baby, takes an active part in his education, give high positive results. Judge for yourself…
Children grow up confident, optimistic, open to the world. These families are close-knit, more prosperous and happy.
Let’s see what an important role dad plays in the development of a child.
The role of the father in raising a child
Finally, a baby appeared in the family. From morning to night, mom is busy with him: he erases diapers, changes diapers, sways, talks ... But what about dad? And dad is waiting! He waits for the baby to grow up to go fishing with him. It’s not a man’s business to talk with a child!
Only dad does not understand that when the baby grows up, it will be too late. The right moment is missing. Why? Yes, because ...
The earlier the better. Due to the lack of practice in communicating with the baby in infancy, in the future it will be difficult for the father to establish a relationship with him. Many men are simply embarrassed to interact with the crumbs or consider this business a female prerogative.
The sooner dad begins to communicate with the baby, the stronger the emotional connection will be established between them. This attachment forms a strong, trusting, friendly relationship. The parent understands the child better. Does not perceive him as a competitor to female attention.
Participates in the formation of gender identity. Communicating closely with the child, the father helps him establish his affiliation with a particular sex. Dad demonstrates ready-made stereotypes of actions and emotions for the boy. Promotes the formation of a unity of self-awareness and behavior in accordance with gender. For girls, the father also influences the definition of identity, but already indirectly. Demonstrates a form of behavior different from the female model.
Serves as an example for the son. The boy, referring his gender to the representatives of the male community, begins to behave in accordance with him. And who, if not the father, is an example of a worthy example: how to act. Dad brings up his son honesty, courage, respect for a woman. Teaches to communicate with girls and boys. Encouraging male traits and criticizing for femininity, he adjusts the behavior, manners, deeds of his son. The father is involved in the upbringing of the "boy" in the literal sense of the word.
For girls, it's the other way around. Praise and compliments the dad stimulates the manifestation in the daughter of femininity, affection, tenderness.
Affects mental development. Psychologists noticed that in families where the father devotes a lot of time to communicating with the child, children begin to talk faster. Their speech is clear. Men communicate differently with babies.Unlike mothers and grandmothers, they do not curse, do not distort words (for example: a car - “Bibika”). Their speech is correct.
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In addition, men and women think differently. The father expands the boundaries of consciousness of the baby. It is easier for him to form a causal relationship. Interacting with the child, dad contributes to the active development of logical, concrete and abstract thinking.
Gives positive emotions. Women devote a lot of time to caring for children. But men prefer to play actively with them. Dad is a big kid. And this is his advantage. Fun father and baby are different from maternal. In them, physical strength and spontaneity are clearly manifested. They are more active and emotional. Children like it. Such games give bright positive emotions, relieve tension.
Participates in physical development. Daddy's games are a good incentive for a baby to develop physically. Sharp and energetic fun: tossing up, riding on shoulders, somersaults - train muscles and the vestibular apparatus. Dynamic movements develop the reaction speed, coordination of movements in the baby. Doctors note that children with whom dads actively play in infancy begin to crawl and walk earlier.
Parenting like a man. No matter how single mothers try, only a man can educate a man. Firstly, the male fatherly support “You can!” Plays a big role for the baby.
Secondly, women often criticize fathers for their strict parenting. And in vain! It must be remembered that boys are not girls! They have to conquer “a place under the sun”, to be strong in spirit and purposeful. Learn to interact with representatives of the male community, be able to speak their language and compete. The father is responsible for the socialization of his son in society. It is dad who will not let you spoil and "bully" the little boy. Teaches male laws.
Mother brings up boy care, kindness, affection. Father instills fortitude, courage, perseverance.
Dad is the second parent. It can help the child at a certain period to separate from the mother. Usually, the support of a man is required when the baby begins to attend kindergarten and at the crisis stage 3 years.
In the period of getting used to the garden, a father can drive to a preschool. It’s easier for a child to let go of his dad than his mother. Women are more compassionate, it is more difficult for them to part with the baby. They are very worried, amenable to children's provocations and manipulations. Make mistakes that further aggravate the addictive phase..
At 3 years, the child is experiencing crisis period. He becomes moody, stubborn, naughty. Often mothers begin to indulge the baby, do for him, thinking that they help. Fathers, on the other hand, behave differently: more restrained, stricter, are not conducted on provocation, giving the child more freedom and independence.
The role of the father is also irreplaceable in communication with the daughter ...
Participates in the development of girls as women. Communicating closely with the baby, taking care and patronizing her, dad shows how his daughter cherishes him, that he loves her. Thus, the girl forms a positive self-esteem. By compliments, approval and praise, he increases her confidence in her own attractiveness, femininity, charm. The father is the first man from whom the daughter comes to be recognized as a worthy representative of the community of women.
Teaches relationships with the opposite sex. The relationship between father and mother serves as an example of how a man should relate to a woman. On the example of dad, the baby unconsciously learns to understand the nature of the opposite sex.
Alienation in the relationship between father and daughter threatens that, as a girl, it will be difficult for her to contact the opposite sex. Lack of experience forms an incorrect, distorted view of men. Problems in dealing with a stronger sex lead to low self-esteem and lack of integration.
Harmony in the family
The participation of the father in raising a child is of great importance for the development of harmonious relations in a couple.I will explain: why?
- The psychological load is reduced. Employment of the baby with the father frees the woman time for herself. She has the opportunity to relax or do what she loves: hobbies, hobbies, self-development. Fatigue goes away. A rested woman is a happy mother and a grateful wife.
- Cohesion. Father and mother, who actively communicate with the child, spend a lot of time together. In such families, a close relationship is formed between its members. These are the strongest cells of society. There is mutual understanding and support. A worthy role model.
- Moral support and understanding. The concept of maternity leave does not include the first meaningful word “maternity leave”. The husband naively believes - since the wife is sitting at home for 3 years, then she does not work. Only the husband who participates in the upbringing of the child on a par with his wife understands that being a parent is a round-the-clock work without days off and holidays.
- No jealousy. When dad spends a lot of time with the baby, they have a strong relationship. The father takes the child differently: not as a competitor to female attention, but as an ally, a piece of himself. There is no jealousy, no reproaches, resentment and claims to the wife on the part of men.
- There is someone to look after the crumbs. There are times when mom needs to go home: to the clinic, to the store or to the hairdresser. In a family where dad communicates closely with the baby, leaving a young child for a couple of hours is not a problem. The husband will not refuse to sit with the peanut, as he knows what to do with it. And Mother is calm. She is sure that you can always rely on dad. Confidence in the husband, gratitude for the help and pride in the spouse increases. Male self-esteem and returns on the part of men are growing.
In a piggy bank to a woman
How to attract a man to communicate with the baby:
- Attach spouse to help care for a child.
- Walk with your family more often. Even to the store. Try to spend your free time together.
- Always put the baby next to the resting dad. Let them get used to rest with each other.
- Cheat! Like, I didn’t get enough sleep, I’m tired. Ask to look after the baby, play with him. ”
- Use every opportunity to attract your father to communicate with the baby.
- Be sure to praise and thank your beloved for your help.
The question arises: when to start attracting “dad” to communicate with a child?
- Then, when you saw two stripes on the pregnancy test. Yes, this is exactly the time when it is time for the father to take part in the development of the baby.
Educate a "Papa" in a man and you will always have a worthy assistant at hand.
We also read:
Child development: the role of the father in raising children. Dr. Komarovsky
