In order to raise a happy, healthy child, and in the future - an adult, to cultivate independence and faith in them, parents need to be careful with strict education and submission to their will.
Often you can hear on the playgrounds how moms complain to each other about the disobedience of children. Let's try to figure out whether this is so bad when the child does not always exactly follow the instructions of adults, sometimes is naughty and naughty.
If disobedience is unhealthy, parents should insist. In other cases, it is better to support the initiative and give the baby the freedom to make decisions. For example, when choosing entertainment, colors of clothes, toys.
An obedient, executive child is called good. But is unquestioning following all the instructions of adults so useful for raising a future independent personality?
In every little kid
Both the boy and the girl,
There are two hundred grams of explosives
Or even a pound!
Gotta run and jump
To grab everything, to kick my legs,
Otherwise, it will explode, fucking women!
And not him!Every new kid
Crawls out of the diapers
And get lost everywhere
And is everywhere!
He's always racing somewhere
He is terribly upset
If anything in the world
Suddenly it will happen without him!
When the child is overly helpful, parents should worry. Although it seems that it is more convenient if the child does not create problems, he obeys the will of his parents and politely behaves with others.
But shouldn't a child be an active mischievous person?
He learns the world and with interest discovers everything new. And it’s good if the parents help him in this.
Adults should deal with the reason for such an overly “convenient”, submissive behavior of the child. Perhaps they show excessive rigor and suppress the only emerging personality. Will their child grow up to be an exemplary citizen, or will their parents raise an independent, non-initiative person subject to the influence of others?
There are personal characteristics of temperament. Choleric people are prone to activity, restlessness, they rush like the wind and do not give rest to parents. Phlegmatic people seem calm and reasonable, more like quiet, independent games and rarely create inconvenience to elders.
The kid does not want to upset his parents. He thinks that he will be less loved and punished for "wrong behavior." The child crushes in itself negative emotions and does not allow them to go outside. Because of this, he can accumulate aggression and have problems with the nervous system. The child is afraid of the wrath of the elders, tries to live up to their expectations, to be exemplary and comfortable, to please and not cause irritation.
When raising a baby in unnecessary bans hardly an independent personality is formed that can defend its point of view in adulthood. The dependent person will seek support from the outside and avoid responsibility for his actions, shifting decisions to others.
It is important to show your child that you reckon with his desires and character.To do this, you need to give a little freedom. Let him choose what to play, what to read and what to wear. The more opportunities he has to take the initiative and make choices, the freer the personality will grow. A free man is more likely to succeed in life.
Let your child know that you do not blame him and love him for who he is. The child needs to feel your support in his children's, but such important matters for him, even if they seem insignificant to you.
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- How to re-educate a spoiled child (how to understand that a child is spoiled: signs and causes)
- Childish whim or selfishness: how is one different from the other?
- 10 secrets of raising an obedient child: how to teach children to respect and hear parents
It seems to me that children should be obedient in moderation. Of course, it is convenient for parents when their children obey and fulfill all their requirements, but a strong personality is unlikely to grow out of such a child. The child must have an opinion and be able to express it. Parents are those people who must teach the child to express their emotions correctly.
My son is too active a child, he is 3 years old, he plays all day, but does not sleep well at night. Several times we were taken to a neurologist. The doctor prescribed various drugs to calm the brain. He is not such an aggressive child, but we cannot force him to do what he does not want.
I am a young mother of two children. The eldest daughter is already 9 years old, and she actively shows her character. Yes, we have disagreements over this, but I try to show the child that I need to be softer to my loved ones. I believe that you don’t need to make a kid out of a child, it still won’t work out. In modern society, children grow up faster, they try to show us that they also mean something in this world. No need to bother them.
It is very difficult to determine where normal childhood activity ends and a serious neurological deviation begins. Naturally, you need to contact a specialist, you should not solve this problem yourself.