How to punish a child

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Not one upbringing is complete without punishment, even the most patient parents once resorted to them. A child who is allowed petty pranks sometimes crosses the line, even realizing that he is doing badly. Together with the child, the degree of his misconduct grows.

It is important for parents to determine how much punishment is necessary, and what measures are best not to resort to.

Punishment should be a kind of lesson that will allow the child to recognize his own mistakes and not repeat them again.

They are not punished for this.

We will understand what misconduct of the baby does not require punishment:

Cognition of the world and all new. If a child continually drags pebbles into his mouth, tries to touch the iron, checks the strength of the toy, punishment is not appropriate. This behavior is a natural reaction of the baby, he learns the surrounding reality, tries to absorb information about objects and their properties. Of course, this is natural until a certain age, a five-year-old crumb with a pebble in his mouth, this is already a simple pampering.
No experience. You should not punish the baby for not being able to walk on the potty, awkward movements, unconscious damage to furniture, taking away toys from children on the street. Perhaps your child simply does not have enough life experience and skills.
Jealousy and affection. If your baby threw a tantrum, not letting my mother go to the store, or refused to play with her younger brother because of jealousy, this is not a reason for punishment. And the incentive to sort things out, find out causes of jealousy and it’s easy to explain to the little one that Mom can go away, but she will never leave him.
Immediacy. Kids are naturally naive and spontaneous, they can tell a family secret, or even think up fairy tales. Punishment is best replaced by serious conversation, as is the case with simple negligence. Crumbs often show fearlessness and spontaneity, it is important to make it clear to the baby what his actions will lead to trouble.
Physiological needs. The punishment should not follow the refusal of dinner, or the constant demand for going to the toilet, when parents are very uncomfortable. Like any person, a child may and may not want to eat, drink, or go to the toilet.

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Physical punishment

Psychologists argue that physical violence, constant spanking and slap in the face lead to mental disorders even in adulthood, and in school years a child may not be in time for subjects and shy away from peers.

Child cheating is also often associated with physical punishment.

If your nerves are on edge, leave the room. You will calm down yourself and give the child the opportunity to remain without a viewer of his tantrum, or misconduct. The child will also recover and calm down.Most likely, he will come running after you if he is already calm. Do not go to screams, but calmly explain what the baby was wrong in and make a promise not to do so again.

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Darkness

Never cover your child in a dark room, "so you think." You can not use children's fears as a way of censure. Not only does the baby feel rejected, so is his psyche. Punishments related to a child’s fears can lead to suicidal tendencies, paranoid inclinations, and phobias.

If you have already decided to punish a child with loneliness, let him be left alone in a bright room, he will calm down, think and draw conclusions. Be sure to talk to the baby later and demonstrate forgiveness.

Screams

It is strange to try to shout over a squeamish child, or to twist it. More often, while the parents cry, the baby remains in a stupor, not understanding what is happening. While the child is hysterical, he is little capable of comprehending his action and its consequences, so it is better to distract the crumbs, make laugh, switch his attention to an interesting object.

Young children perceive screaming as physical punishment.

Watch yourself, control your anger.

Threats

In punishment for misconduct, parents often simply threaten the child with reprisal or refusal from walks, entertainment. They are not going to fulfill the threat, and the child, meanwhile, is waiting and worrying and does not understand why parents want to do this.

If you decide to punish a child, do it right away, or don’t do it at all.

Never select gifts so that the baby does not doubt your sincerity when you bring him joy.

Food

Do not punish the baby without giving him food, or forcing him to eat. You don’t want to spoil your baby’s health and digestion. Good nutrition is the basis of a child’s health, so food restrictions will not lead to anything good. Another thing is if you refuse sweets, if the baby is allergic, but even then, find an alternative, sugar-free bars, home-made sweets using fruits and dried fruits.

Work

For a child, help to parents, labor, activities should be taken for granted, ordinary components of life, and not a punishment. The child should not develop a stereotype that work is a punishment, not a necessary activity.

On the contrary, you need to let the baby realize how nice it is to receive the fruits of their labor.

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Comparison

It is very painful for a child to hear that you think someone is better than him. It will be a mistake to consider that comparing the baby with other children, you motivate the child to become better. In fact, he may try to resemble the object of comparison, but at the same time he will feel unloved, rejected. A child can hypertrophy relate to his shortcomings, only being locked in himself and trying to prove to you that he is good.

Try by all means to make the child understand that you love him by anyone, with all the shortcomings, under any circumstances, he is the best for you.

And you can compare the baby with him yourself, “Yesterday you were so wonderful, obedient, that would be like that now”.

Never use the words “I do not love you”, “I do not need you like that”, “go to another mother”, etc. Such phrases hurt, causing doubts about your love and increasing complexes.

Ignoring

As a punishment, of course, you can leave the crumb alone for a while, but do not ignore it for a long time. The kid can decide that he is so bad that they do not want to communicate with him. Ignoring is, in fact, a powerful manipulation; it can create an emotional dependence in a child, a sense of fear and estrangement. The idea that it can be rejected by loving people causes panic in the crumbs.

You do not strive for such an outcome of events, which means that you must also comply with the framework of ingoing.

Punishment Reminder for Parents

One misconduct - one punishment, you do not need to dump everything that the child was guilty of and to invent a number of punishments. Let the baby realize what he is punished for;
Do not forget to encourage a childpraise and encourage in every way;
Bad behavior and actions have a limitation period; you don’t need to remember bad the next day or even later. What has passed has passed, the moment has been missed;
Goodbye, be sure to let the child understand that he is forgiven, and again you are not angry and ready to lead an ordinary life and communicate as before;
Do not humiliate, do not call names and do not punish in public. Extra complexes for your child are useless;
Make it so that the child is not afraid of the punishment itself, but of the opportunity to offend people close to him;
Any punishment must be fair. If in doubt, do not punish;
Always find out the reason for the child’s behavior.

Remember that your punishment should never affect the physical and mental health of the child. Show love and care, create a friendly, relaxed atmosphere in the family. Love the child already for what he is.

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